Couple - late 30s: Questions around consolidating finances, renovating home and backup plans if a startup doesn't work out

For your age and income, you have relatively little wealth.
Taken on her own, OP has a house with an LTV of 80%-ish, a DB pension, with another €32k on top in pension assets. Yes she has €15k of debt but it's being paid off pretty quickly.

I don't think that's all that unreasonable for someone late 30s who was single until recently. Life is generally more expensive when you're not dividing by two.
 
I think you're right. Don't think a bank will even consider an 80% equity release on the apartment to renovate another house. Selling that to finance the renovation seems like the best option. Thank you for all the advice!