Hi Sarah, I was having similar problems with my daughter when she was about 7. I did see a child counsellor with her and it really helped to find the root of the problem. She really opened up when there was someone there who didnt seem to be out to punish her and just wanted to listen. In my situation, I split from her father when she was quite young and have since married. But her father was the opposite to your little girls father, at the door every evening, very controlling, constantly grilling her about her home life, what we were doing, saying to her, treating her. He was always asking if her step father was being mean to her etc etc. She just couldnt take the pressure at such a young age. Now she tells us everything he says, shares the burden. I don't confront him on every silly thing he says to her, but we discuss and it and talk about why he might have said it and she gets to a point where she is not worrying about it. Poor little thing was carrying this worry for so long on her own as she never knew what to say to him and sometimes even just told him what he wanted to hear which caused all sorts of problems! She was definitely acting out because of it. Sorry for the long post, it is a different situation in some ways but I think the root could the same. I hope you get the help you need.