Quick follow up on this and a nice ending.
I paid the duties to UPS on the item last week and received same within an hour of paying. I forgot to leave the seller feedback on ebay, so he mailed me this morning to ask me would I do same and that he had another couple of those items for sale if I knew anyone interested.
I gave him the story about the duties and how, while not being his fault, it ended up costing me more then 100e more then if Id bought it in a shop here so it wouldnt be worth while buying again. So, without me asking for it, the guy refunds me 100e to my paypal account to make up the difference as he didnt want me feeling bad about buying from him. Some good guys out there.