Its not intelligence thats at issue with something like this - its selfishness.
Can you tell him this? Obv all relationships are different but at this stage are you close enough to just come out and announce this to him? If he knows how much it means to you he might change his tune?
How do you find what?
Thats a tough call about the watch - on the one hand you dont want to not get him something out of spite, on the other hand why should you bother if he doesnt?
Personally Id address it verbally before making any decisions.
But if he is already on thin ice maybe you need to do a full re-consider?
No offence but I think you are looking for Utopia.
How do I find these guys.
If the little gestures and demonstrations are missing only 5 months in - what will it be like in 20 years time? I mean, this is the time he should be woo-ing you if he likes you!!
Equally, if you start buying him clothes after five months, he'll think you want to dress him.
I think it was a bit insensitive of him to ask you "if you'd like a present". I know you were probably caught off guard but the only good answer to that is "only from those who like to give them".
I'd suggest you talk to him about the gifts, Christmas and the underlying problems in your relationship (since there clearly are some) and stop wasting time on the AAM asking people who know nothing about you, your BF or your relationship with him. As someone who has recently gone through a breakup after 8 years, the worst thing you can do is have doubts/nagging feelings and not talk to the other person about them. They will only fester and build up inside you and explode eventually. The Christmas thing is only a smokescreen to deflect from your real doubts.
I wouldnt care if I never got a present from my husband for Christmas, birthday etc And I frequently don't. And vice versa. I usually give a subtle warning if I am going to buy him a present- like last year I bought him a techy gadget that I knew he'd love so I warned him in advance. So he bought me something too. But this year I told him there's nothing I want and there's nothing he wants either, so we won't bother. Instead we'll go out to a nice restaurant for dinner over Christmas. We've always done similar.
Love isn't about getting or giving presents, for me, it's the bigger picture that's important.
If I want a present, I tell him. And frequently tell him what, too. No disappointment. Happiness all round.
I don't believe it is fundamental to a relationship.
We'll have to agree to disagree on that, truthseeker.
I love it, that he cooks dinner all the time, stuff like that-the little things.
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