Boyfriend of 5 months doesn't 'believe' in christmas (or birthday) gifts.
Apparently if he needs something he'll buy it for himself...
but he has never bought me any sort of gift, even flowers.
...A stingy weirdo...
People who cannot empathise with others like of giving/receiving gifts either have some kind of social disability like autism or they are selfish self absorbed eejits.
If you're not my wife, or a blood relative, you're not on my list.
I believe we're all at different points on the autistic spectrum. For men, it's more pronounced.
He's a very principled individual, but intelligent enough to realise that this matters to most people.
I'm very disappointed as I was looking forward to having someone to spoil and vice versa for the first christmas in ages. Either way the fun is now removed from it.
How do I find them?
ETA - had planned spend the bones of €300 on a lovely watch that would be relevant to his job - what should I now do?
Gosh that's a tough one. It would send a warning sign to me though - a lifetime of no thoughtful gifts, at Christmas, birthdays, Valentine's day, annviersaries. And I mean thoughtful gifts, I don't mean expensive ones.
BTW, nothing says "oh-oh" like a €300 watch from a girlfriend of five months.
Has he said that he's not getting presents AT ALL or has he just indicated that the whole gift thing doesn't excite him. There's a differnce. Some people go a bit nuts trying to get the "perfect" present for someone, often at considerable expense.
Maybe he's just giving you an out by letting you know that he won't be offended if you give him a tie and a book token. Sounds like the type that would hate you to spend money on soemthing he wouldn't like or use. That's not to say that he wouldn't spend money on you if he thught you'd appreciate it.
But I'm very aware of what some of the girls are suggesting - ending up in a situation where I never get a treat or surprise, or something to make me feel special.
I asked what he'd like (he's away and I'll be doing my shopping while he's gone) and he said he didn't want any present, didn't believe in them, and just buys what he needs when he needs it. He did ask to be fair if I'd like something, and I said no, out of disappointment really. I'll be letting him know in
What you suggest does sound like him, he is a very practical person. So that may be it. But I'm very aware of what some of the girls are suggesting - ending up in a situation where I never get a treat or surprise, or something to make me feel special.
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