Bought with sister, now getting married. Help!

You are in a stronger position than you think here. She cannot stop your partner from moving in because you own half the property. If / when he does who is going to want to rent a house with a married couple. After getting hubby in, I would stop paying mortgage, and force a crisis situation. Her hand will then be shown. Her most likely move will be to agree to sell.

I'm assuming that you would agree to sell if she would. Her not agreeing to sell is way out of order. As a consequence, she is attempting to bully you into doing what she wants. You need your equity to move on etc.

As previously mentioned, you also have the option to move legally. I would accept that things are past simple rectification and act accordingly.

Hi markesmith,
Contrary to other advice given today, it would be better that you did not indulge in any game playing, (tempting though it would be..)
I was in a similar situation with a good friend and it was a nightmare to sort out.

A few legal points:

I'm presuming that you bought as tennants in common, an equal split between the 2 of you.
If your new hubby moves in, it may become a family home. If he starts paying rent, he will have a material right to a slice of the house even if his name is not on the deeds. Even if he doesn't pay a penny but contributes to the upkeep, he may be entitled to a slice of it.

I'd suggest you get good legal advice on this one.

The relationship with your sister would seem to be beyond repair. It is an unfortuate and very sad situation.

The questions is, what is more important to you - the house or your future life? Do you want to start a new married life with a sister-in-war? If he does move in, will always be 'your' house, not 'our' home? The house will forever have an atmosphere.

I'd suggest you both sell it, split the proceeds and move on with your lives.
You can force her to sell. Snotty solicitors letters threatening court action can really get a persons attention without actually going to court.

Give her sufficient ntoice that this is what you intend to do. Allow her to sort out her financial affairs regarding the new house. She is being forced to react to your changing circumstances, so try to be as gracious as possible.

Initially, you and fiance can rent a 2 bed apartment. One room to be an office.

And given the history, may I be so bold as to suggest a pre-nup agreement?

D8L

Really sorry for the situation you find yourself in. However, don't stop paying the mortgage - it will look very bad on your bank record and they may refuse you further funding..

also, bear in mind that a pre-nup has no legal status in this State..

Just wanted to say I feel so sorry for you. It's so hard when realtionships within a family breakdown like this and especially hard when you know you have tried so hard to work it out.
Is there any chance your parents could act as mediators to sort this out??. I know you probably don't want to involve them and they love you both equally but she might listen to them or is there anyone else that she would listen to get this sorted in the best interests for both of you?.
Best of luck and congrats on your pending nuptuals. My heart went out to you when I read this.!!

Again, thank you SO much for all the advice and kind words. Latest development is that my Dad is getting involved to try and help us sort this out. We will hopefully either agree for one or other of us to do a buy out, and if we can't agree on that we will have to put the house on the market and split the proceeds.

Thank you all for the legal, financial, practical and common sense advice. I really appreciate it.

I'm going to just try and get this resolved as cleanly as possible and move forward with the next chapter in my life. Which will be a happy one, I have no doubt.

I presume your husband is allowed stay overnight?
If so then maybe don't get your husband to move in and instead get him to stay overnight every night!