I have to say.... I haven't a clue what you're talking about!
In general I would back someone up if I knew for absolute certain they were wronged in some way.
One thing that has always bugged me at work has been people moaning and complaining but if a manager was to ask about or broach the subject suddenly heads go down and feet shuffle. I have never been too afraid to speak up when needed but it has gone against me and I would be less inclined to do so now unless I was sure I could depend on support.
You do have to wonder about people who agree with something then say nothing when they ought to, are they spineless, unwilling to seem like a trouble maker or do they not really believe and just saying what they think each person wants to hear?
As I've said on the other thread, I really can't stand people like this. They're just cowards who want everyone else to fight their battles while they just moan on and on about things without making any attempt to change them. It does my head in.
It does my head in too!
Im starting to stop backing others up now.
What about a scenario where you had a partner/mother/daughter /friend etc who didnt back you up, what do you do?
Should we all realise that we have no back up and the only person we need to back us up is ourselves?
Or are we correct that its right to expect a level of support?
What about a scenario where you had a partner/mother/daughter /friend etc who didnt back you up, what do you do?
Should we all realise that we have no back up and the only person we need to back us up is ourselves?
Or are we correct that its right to expect a level of support?
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ok,but i think the point of someone supporting you or backing you up is that you should not need to ask for it,if the person has already made it clear that they are on your side.onq;1187875[quote said:]i seldom ask for back up, in fact i cannot recall a time when i asked for it.
In rl i have occasionally needed help to do something and been fortunate to receive it.
i have sometimes lobbied support in real life, when on committees, to ensure a vote gets passed.
Again, a vote is for a person's conscience and i wouldn't ask someone to betray that to support me.
this is the point..someone agrees with a point of view and in fact argues strongly for it and then backs off when it comes to the crunch. Of course no one would/should support someone whose views they disagree with,again this is about those who purport to support a view.having said that i don't take "sides" in arguments, i argue the point - and i would not support someone generally unless i agreed with their position.
I've enough to do remembering my own positions on things without remembering assumed positions!
plus there is no loss of face having made your point and backing out.
In fact its a fools who persists when all points have been made.
I seldom ask for back up, in fact I cannot recall a time when I asked for it.
In RL I have occasionally needed help to do something and been fortunate to receive it.
I have sometimes lobbied support in real life, when on Committees, to ensure a vote gets passed.
Again, a vote is for a person's conscience and I wouldn't ask someone to betray that to support me.
I have supported people who did ask for backup and not counted it against them if they left me on the front line.
People asking for back up are often near the end of their tether, so its a bit unrealistic to expect them to be as forthright as before.
Having said that I don't take "sides" in arguments, I argue the point - and I would not support someone generally unless I agreed with their position.
I've enough to do remembering my own positions on things without remembering assumed positions!
Plus there is no loss of face having made your point and backing out.
In fact its a fools who persists when all points have been made.
ONQ.
That's not really what we're talking about, though. We're talking about the kind of people who get all involved and stirred up about things but, when it comes to doing something about it, take two steps back and leave other people to do the hard work. If we all took that attitude nothing would ever change or be resolved.
I think though these people are notoriously unreliable. They are fond of the drama but ultimately are spineless - harsh I know but true.
Personally I never look for or expect back up. If I believe in something strongly myself then that should be sufficient. Also I find if you take that approach people back you up without you having sought it.
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