Brilliant comparison with the high maintenance girlfriend, thanks Gabriel, ill definitely bear it in mind!
Will give the Golf Mark 4 a test drive, I have a Mark 3 at the moment and its very standard to drive, comfortwise etc. Nothing special at all, was hoping the Mark 4 would be an improvement. Im surprised to hear about reliability issues.
I was considering a focus before, there seems to be a good few ex-rental/ex-salesperson Focus cars out there, only a couple of years old with high mileage.