Hello!
I've a 98 Passat and I love her. Yes, she's a she. And yes, she has a name. So yes, I'm one of those sad drivers.
Anyway, I think the Passat is just class. Mine is a 1.8L so is a bit thirsty but not too crazy. I have heard that Passat diesel is the way to go. The older model Passats are also sturdier than the 2005 and onwards models. My poor baby was recently violated by the new model Passat and she made bits of the 2005 model. So the chassis is stronger. Not that I'm entirely sure what a chassis is, of course...
I find it a very comfy car to drive. I do a serious amount of mileage and she's never let me down (I've had her for about 3 years, I think). It's heavy and so you feel a bit more secure. The boot is enormous. I think it leads to Narnia. My central locking is ridiculously loud, but that's about my only complaint.
I was looking to change cars recently, however, and absolutely everyone I spoke to said to get a Toyota Avensis. Diesel. I test drove one and it was nice. I prefer the look of the Passat but I don't think an Avensis will ever let you down (now that's quite a statement!).
Anyway, go for either a 2005 (old model) or younger Passat, diesel. Or a 2003 or newer Avensis. Diesel. In my opinion!