meathman2014
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Hello.
I am a recently separated dad, with 3 kids in the age range 4-13. I have been bought out of the family home, and am now looking for a home for myself. My relationship with my ex wife is currently very difficult, but I hope it will improve over time. My family members consider her to be quite controlling and domineering, and this partially accounts for the marriage breakdown.
The area where I lived in until recently is quite nice, I have lived there a long time/ is "home " to me and I can afford to buy a smaller house in the area.
Whilst I am not involved in any relationship or dating, perhaps eventually I will meet someone with a bit of luck. I want to maintain a strong relationship with my kids, but I am also thinking eventually to my own future as a middle aged adult, especially as they get older.
I am getting differing opinions from family and friends about whether I should stay in he general vicinity or move away from the area.Some feel I should stay nearby and have the kids dropping in as they get older, others feel it is absolutely mad to be any kind of walking distance from a (currently difficult)ex spouse. Everyone is agreed that I should not stay in the immediate vicinity 1-2 minutes walk away!Just wondering how far away is "far enough" in these kind of circumstances? 5 minute walk away? 15 minute walk away? Too far to walk but short car drive ? 10-12 minute car drive away?
On the one hand I want to be near my kids/ in an area I like, on the other hand I don't want the ex randomly at my doorstep / "spying" on a possible future relationship.etc etc
Thanks in advance for help with this dilemma
I am a recently separated dad, with 3 kids in the age range 4-13. I have been bought out of the family home, and am now looking for a home for myself. My relationship with my ex wife is currently very difficult, but I hope it will improve over time. My family members consider her to be quite controlling and domineering, and this partially accounts for the marriage breakdown.
The area where I lived in until recently is quite nice, I have lived there a long time/ is "home " to me and I can afford to buy a smaller house in the area.
Whilst I am not involved in any relationship or dating, perhaps eventually I will meet someone with a bit of luck. I want to maintain a strong relationship with my kids, but I am also thinking eventually to my own future as a middle aged adult, especially as they get older.
I am getting differing opinions from family and friends about whether I should stay in he general vicinity or move away from the area.Some feel I should stay nearby and have the kids dropping in as they get older, others feel it is absolutely mad to be any kind of walking distance from a (currently difficult)ex spouse. Everyone is agreed that I should not stay in the immediate vicinity 1-2 minutes walk away!Just wondering how far away is "far enough" in these kind of circumstances? 5 minute walk away? 15 minute walk away? Too far to walk but short car drive ? 10-12 minute car drive away?
On the one hand I want to be near my kids/ in an area I like, on the other hand I don't want the ex randomly at my doorstep / "spying" on a possible future relationship.etc etc
Thanks in advance for help with this dilemma