I don't get your point? Maintenance has nothing to do with access. If you never see the child but you bring one into the world you are responsible. And Carrilou the bad circumstances between the parents should have no bearing on the maintenance. Either the child is entitled to it or she/he isn't and the Polish courts will decide. Nothing stopping OP applying for access, Poland isn't the other side of the world....however:
If the mother and child are both residing in Poland, and the child was born there, how would they be getting Irish Child benefit?
If for some reason they were entitled and did get it, it would still be irrelevant for maintenance purposes.
The OP has a responsibility to pay, and the amount has been set by a court order. He needs to either pay up and shut up, or challenge the amount through the proper legal channels. End of.
That's clever, the maintenance will not cost the father anything, he might even make a profit.Does this mean the father could claim here!
The rules shoud not discriminate between father/mother so I think in theory he could claim child benefit here. Personally I think it was a silly decision made by our government when the country was a wash with cash.That would only apply if the mother was working in Ireland, even if the child was living in Poland. The mother is not working in Ireland and the child is Polish born, they have no claim to Child Benefit in Ireland.
Make sure it is an independent lab that does the test. Don't have a lab in Poland or Ireland do the test. Get a lab in a neutral country to do the test.
So did you get a DNA test done Amoeba - or if not, do you intend to?
If the OP is self employed it can be a different matter. Deductions cant be made, endless summons and then perhaps warrant. Then, in an Irish Court, only arrears of the previous 26 weeks have to be accounted for!
AmoebaAsasin, is your name on the childs birth cert?
carrielou I havent seen my daughter in 6 years.she is now 17. i believe a child has the right to two parents but if they dont get on it is better for everyone that the parents split.
i pay €100 a week and for that i get nothing and a young girl gets no father. all because of a horrible selfish mother who wants more money.
i know a mother who gets support from her ex but he has no interest in the child at all.she wishes he would care for the childs sake.
i wonder does the OP ex have any desire for her son to see his father.?
hold on , so you earn 2200 euro as month and feel its only right to pay 200 euro a month just because you feel like ???Hi there - a couple of years back, i happened to meet a Polish girl here in Ireland. We were together for about six months, she got pregnant in the final month and it was a big shock to both of us. I was prepared to support the child. About 2 weeks after this discovery - she told me that she was going home for a 2 week holiday. She never came back, also shortly after she left ireland - i started getting abusive phone calls from a guy that she had been seeing - basically saying "you stole my girlfriend, " usually these phone calls were drunk and abusive, i had to threaten Garda action to stop. anyway - i got in touch with her - she denied cheating - she also told me that she would be remaining in Poland , having the baby there and remaining there. i felt really p'd off that i had no say in this and i felt powerless to do anything. Anyway the child was born, shortly afterwards - i received a text message demanding €600 per month to be wired over to her, i told her that she must be dreaming, she would not even get that in Ireland. I was earning €1800 Per month at the time. So it went to Court - the court awarded her 300€ per month (they laughed at the €600 ammount) to be backdated bout a year and a half, and all the costs of childbirth etc to be paid too. The polish girl also threatened to send "collectors" if i didnt pay the ammount in full immediately. I appealed this and the judge has arranged another hearing. So far this has cost me €2000 in legal fees. I am willing to pay €200 per month, i am earning 2,300 net per month now but am married and my wife is on a pretty crap salary, when rent, bills, loans, health insurance, food , oil and everything else is taken into consideration things are tight enough.. A lot of people i have spoken to said that €200 in poland is worth substancially more than it is here. We have not done a DNA test but im pretty sure that the child is mine from the phoots.
Bottom line is - i feel this girl is quite calculating, she has no consideration for me or my feelings, she sees me as a source of funds, i want to get this over and done with and pay some monthly ammount - but i dont want to be ripped off. i am aware of my responsibility to pay something. I am not trying to escape this. Any thoughts? Also if any polish people are on here - i would be interested on what you think of as a "fair" ammount to be paid per month?
thanks in advance. AA
hold on , so you earn 2200 euro as month and feel its only right to pay 200 euro a month just because you feel like ???
my partner was on 346euro last year to support myself our two kids and his two kids every week who came to stay for three days a week and was ordered to pay 150 euro a week, we couldnt eat were threthened with eviction and couldnt survive, you think your hard up ????